Investing in Parents During the First Six Weeks of School
Teachers work hard during the first six weeks of school to get to know their students and to establish a safe and welcoming classroom environment. This early investment makes the whole school year go better. The same idea applies to working with the most influential adults in the children’s lives: their parents.
Although in many schools the first parent conference doesn’t take place until November, teachers can begin early—right as, or even before, the school year starts—to build a positive relationship with parents.
Investing in parents as well as children during those critical first six weeks yields better school–home interactions all year, enriches classroom life, and enhances children’s learning.
Goals for the first six weeks
Teachers are experts on curriculum and pedagogy, but parents are experts on their own children—how the children absorb information, what delights them, how they show that they’re upset, what comforts them. During the first six weeks, we can create a climate of respect, trust, and collaboration with these valuable educational partners. Here are the three main goals in this early work with parents:
Help parents feel welcomed and valued.
Show that you’re excited to work with their child. Reassure them that their opinions, interests, and family culture matter to you. As one parent of a second grader said, “It’s so important to me that the teacher has a welcoming demeanor and shows that she wants you to be part of your child’s education.”
Welcome parents to play an active role.
Begin sending the message that you want parents to visit the classroom, send notes, call you, and voice opinions.
Build community among families.
Help parents get to know each other. When parents share positive relationships, they’re more likely to get their children together outside of school, take part in school life, and seek help if their children need it.
Strategies for meeting these goals
Start early with a special parent conference.
To demonstrate powerfully that parents matter, hold your first parent conference before school starts or during the early weeks. You’ll gather crucial information about the child and family, which can mean more effective teaching from the very start.
One way to structure this first conference is to invite parents to share their goals, hopes, and dreams for their child. You could ask, “What do you think is the most important thing for Helen to learn this year?” or “What’s your biggest hope for Jeff this year?” Such questions immediately and meaningfully engage parents and set a collaborative tone. The answers give teachers important insights into their new students.
Susan Smith, who teaches third grade at Rolling Hills Elementary in Holland, Pennsylvania, sends a letter home beforehand to give parents time to think about their hopes and dreams for their child. Like many teachers, she invites parents to choose both a social and an academic goal. By doing so, Susan eases the pressure of choosing just one goal while also demonstrating the equal importance of the social and academic curricula.
Send out a family interest inventory.
Another way to gather information early is to send out a form that asks parents to list special talents, skills, interests, or family traditions that they would like to share with the class. This establishes a connection with the family and welcomes parents into an active role in classroom life.
As you plan units of study, incorporate parents whenever possible. Rafael’s mom can show the class her coin collection; Marlene’s dad can teach hand drumming; Anna’s grandfather is willing to tell stories. Such sharing lets the children learn about each other’s families, helps children and parents feel welcome, and enriches the curriculum, all at the same time.
Learn more: “What Research Says About Parent Involvement“
Hold a Morning Meeting for parents.
To encourage connections among families during the first six weeks, many teachers hold a Morning Meeting for parents, perhaps at back-to-school night. Although the content is geared toward parents and the meeting takes place in the evening, you can follow the usual Morning Meeting format—a greeting, a sharing, a group activity, and a morning message. Just as this format sets a positive tone for learning in the classroom, it does so for this evening of adult communication. It helps build a sense of community among adults and lets parents experience something their children do every day at school.
To emphasize a feeling of collaboration and openness, have parents sit in a circle, just as the children do in their Morning Meeting. Sit in the circle with the parents just as you do with students.
Morning Meeting usually lasts around twenty to thirty minutes, so you’ll have plenty of time to discuss curriculum, approaches to homework, and the other items on your agenda.
For more details on holding Morning Meeting with parents, see “Morning Meeting Begins at 7:15 p.m.!“
Communicate about homework.
You can increase the chances that all students will have success with homework by communicating your homework philosophy and expectations to both parents and students early in the year and factoring in their homework concerns.
Third-fourth grade teacher April Bates believes that homework should let children practice what they learned at school and develop their ability to work independently. But not all children are at the same place in their learning and their readiness for independent work, so April adapts homework as necessary to suit their needs. “I have four reading groups and two math groups,” says April. “If homework is an extension of schoolwork, then we need to individualize their homework, too.” Believing that homework should not be a burden for students or their families, April also adjusts her assignments so that a third grader working diligently can finish in thirty minutes and a fourth grader, in forty-five.
In the first six weeks of school, April talks with her students about homework. Together, they brainstorm how to do homework successfully and create a “Possible Homework Problems and Solutions” chart. Then, at a conference in early October, she asks parents about their children’s homework history, shares her philosophy and expectations, and shows how to help children with assignments. Only after building this foundation does April begin assigning homework.
April sees significant rewards from early homework discussions. “I feel better about homework because everyone’s more comfortable—students, parents, and myself.” Many families agree. “It’s proactive rather than reactive,” says parent Karen Rockwell. “It feels like a group effort.”
Remember the small daily interactions.
Learning about families, fostering community, sharing homework ideas. These are big things we must handle with care and skill when building bridges with parents as the school year starts. But in these early weeks, it’s important to remember that small daily interactions also matter.
Whenever parents pick up or drop off a child, call to get homework for a sick child, or help in the classroom, we have an opportunity to connect. We can share something positive about the child: “Jacob did a great job sharing markers today.” We can follow up on a previous discussion: “Have you thought about sharing your weaving with the class?” Or we can simply ask how the parent is doing: “How are things going with the new baby?” Day by day, we can let parents know that we recognize and value them.
Reach out as early as possible
If we engage parents early in the school year, the school-home partnership can be one of our most powerful unions. We can reach out in many ways; the methods described here are only suggestions. Decide what works best for your students and their parents. The important things are that you be informative, respectful, and welcoming—and that you begin early.
Carol Davis is a Responsive Classroom consulting teacher and the author of several books published by Northeast Foundation for Children (NEFC), the developer of the Responsive Classroom approach. Before joining the NEFC staff, she was an elementary school teacher and counselor.
Alice Yang manages the creation of books and other publications at NEFC. She’s been editing, writing, and managing publications projects for over twenty years, mainly for nonprofit organizations, including over ten years for NEFC.
Parents & Teachers Working Together, by Carol Davis and Alice Yang
Build positive relationships with parents and work with them to support their children’s learning. Combines the voice of a master teacher with spotlights of a dozen other teachers in action in rural, urban, and suburban schools. Includes sample letters and forms throughout.